My mother passed away on November 7, 2010. She was a wonderful woman, as witnessed by hundreds who came to her funeral. As my brother, sister, and I reflected on her life during her funeral, I penned the following. I give it to those interested as a means for reflecting on your own life. Blessings as you read this tribute.
A Tribute to Mom (from a son, David Lynn)
At the funeral of V. Patricia Neidert
Each of us, as grown children, experienced mom in different ways. Mine was as a student of the Bible, which I have studied for the past thirty years of my life. Mom loved to talk about the Bible. It was important to her. You could often find us perched on the bar stools in the homestead family room talking about it or engaging each other over the telephone about its place in our lives and faith.
Living out her faith was like breathing for mom. She may not have understood all the intricate nuances of the Bible or theology, but one element she understood instinctively was reconciliation; repairing broken things.
Mom often worked behind the scenes to fix broken relationships. She didn’t always have it right, but she wanted friends and family to work together to repair what might be broken in the world or in their personal lives.
Her whole life she tried to reconcile a broken place in her own experience by finding her birth family, which she never achieved. It was an ongoing desire that never was quenched. It was in that struggle, I think, that she somehow found in her daily life the connection for modeling and pursuing avenues for restoring broken relationships to wholeness wherever she encountered them. Brokenness was something she personally knew.
Restoration is sometimes hard, painful, and not easy, but mom knew it was worth the work and effort. Because she loved the teaching of the Bible, she knew that in Christ we can be restored to wholeness. That is the message of all scripture and one that mom understood well.
While mom may not have understood theology, she knew sometimes we have to stand and fight for right, justice, and restoration; and challenged friends and family to do the same.
The text of 2 Corinthians 5: 17-21 is about the ministry of reconciliation; to be ambassadors of Christ. While she may not have known it, this scripture is central to us as believers. It reads:
Therefore, if anyone is in Christ, the new creation has come: The old has gone, the new is here! 18 All this is from God, who reconciled us to himself through Christ and gave us the ministry of reconciliation: 19 that God was reconciling the world to himself in Christ, not counting people’s sins against them. And he has committed to us the message of reconciliation. 20 We are therefore Christ’s ambassadors, as though God were making his appeal through us. We implore you on Christ’s behalf: Be reconciled to God. 21 God made him who had no sin to be sin[a] for us, so that in him we might become the righteousness of God. (TNIV)
Mom sometimes simply shared about her faith and reconciliation, but always taught it and lived it out by example. She wasn’t perfect (the only perfect things were her three children; if you spent any time with her, she would tell you that. In the hospital, she introduced me again and again to nurses and aids. She did the same with my brother and sister). But mom tried to fix brokenness in family, friends, the RISK program at Green Local Schools (a program for teens) and in the church. She knew the emotion in her own life of brokenness; somehow it may have helped her understand why it is important for all of us as human beings to be restored.
We will honor her life in the days to come if we enter the primary relationship of all; the one we are invited to accept with Christ, who restored all humanity and the universe to God.
That is what mom would have wanted all of us to know today. We can be restored to God through Christ and become part of a ministry she modeled and held dear. Brokenness fixed; wholeness coming to life.
Her body in the end was broken; now it is whole. That is the ultimate gift of God through Christ. A hope she knew that would be reality as she experienced Christ face to face.
Mom would have wanted one final prayer and blessing for you all on this day. It comes from Paul’s writing in 2 Corinthians 13:14:
May the grace of the Lord Jesus Christ, and the love of God, and the fellowship of the Holy Spirit be with you all. (TNIV)